Monday, May 4, 2015
Wonderful weekend
Monday, April 20, 2015
Damn fire ants.
I used to love Texas. Up until a few hours ago. Up until it's indestructible resident pest decided to attack my baby.
I was inside with Abby while Kate was outside with the dogs. Everything was just fine until I heard screaming.
I ran outside to Kate screaming and crying as she's trying to get fire ants off of her. I immediately take her clothes off and get all the ants off. My friend's little boy had the same thing happen last summer. He ended up getting a fever from all the bites so I put Kate up on the counter, gave her a dose of Tylenol and started rubbing hydrocortisone on her ant bites. Kate is still crying but is now itching all over.
I start to notice red splotches all over. Then bumps start to pop up. Then Kate's face starts to swell. Her nose, eyes, cheeks, lips, ears.
I immediately start to cry and freak out. Andrew tells me to calm down and get ready to go to the doctor. He's home on medical leave for getting his appendix removed last week. That's a whole 'nother story. Anyhow, we get the girls in the car and head over to the clinic.
I go inside with Kate while Andrew stays in the car with Abby. I'm crying as I walk to the front desk and ask if I need to take my baby girl to the ER. They immediately go get the doctor. I'm taken to a room where Kate is checked out and given a shot within 10 minutes. Her swelling starts to go down fairly quickly. We stay there to make sure the swelling continues to go down. Kate is given a steroid an hour later and we continue to wait. She is finally starting to look so much better. Her face is still a bit swollen but not quite so worrying.
I learned quite a bit while there. Fire ants don't drown. Usually. When it rains, they clump together and float to wherever the rain takes them and then build a new fort wherever they land. So if you're in a lake or river and you see a pile of ants floating along, don't touch them. Because once they crawl onto you, jumping into the water won't make the damn things let go. They are the devils pest. Good for nothing but making your life hell.
This new knowledge of how they travel connects a few dots in my mind because I've noticed before how there always seems to be new piles of ants after it rains. Now I know. And now I will be more diligent about decimating ant piles after it rains.
Kate will continue to be on benadryl and steroids for the next 3 days and I now have an epi pin for her, just in case. Her face is still a bit swollen. And her ear. She has rashes on her arms, chest, and back. But it is so much less than before. My poor baby girl.
Hate those damn fire ants.
Wednesday, April 1, 2015
Easter
Kate had fun jumping on the bouncy castle...after all the other kids had left. This girl. She is so shy. She also had fun finding her Easter Eggs, decorating an egg, coloring a picture, and playing with her friends.
Tuesday, March 17, 2015
Andrew's birthday
My plan to wake up early and cook a nice breakfast totally crashed when we woke up with only 50 minutes to get out the door for church.
Church went well. Andrew taught second hour and I subbed in nursery.
Wednesday, March 11, 2015
Abby's First Birthday!!
We decided, last minute, to go ahead and throw her a birthday bash. Can't give up on everything with the second child already.
Minnie Mouse was the theme. For whatever reason, probably because the tv is on all the time at our house, Abby LOVES Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. Abby's favorite parts of the show are the songs at the beginning and end of each episode. If she can hear the song playing, no matter where she is at in the house, she will make a bee-line for the tv. It is quite funny and adorable to watch.
The party was a success. There was food, friends and plenty of funny moments, all things needed for anything to be considered a success.
Tuesday, February 24, 2015
Abby is walking!!!
Sunday, February 15, 2015
Article 15 hearing
We walked into the conference room at 10:45 and already there were ten of our friends there ready to support us. Friends gradually trickled in and Andrew's military ADC (Area Defense Council, aka military lawyer), Captain C, arrive a few minutes later. Captain C was pleasantly surprised with the now twenty-ish people that had shown up to support us but the support kept coming. We had to go out and find chairs to seat how many people were coming to support Andrew. We counted them after the hearing and there were 65 chairs filled plus a few more that had decided to stand.
Right at 11:30, the room was called to attention and everyone stood up as Major General K walked in. He address everyone, thanked them for coming and reminded them why they were there - to support Andrew. If they were truly there to support Andrew, then they would support the process with respect and dignity. There were to be no jokes made, no booing, no audible gasping. Maj Gen K then opened the floor for Andrew to give his full side of the story, explaining why we were all there.
Andrew started with a story that took place 12 years ago, of the first and only time he has ever taken percocet. He had gotten his wisdom teeth pulled and was prescribed percocet for pain. Andrew only ever took one pill because he realized that he became a totally different person when on percocet. He became irrational, emotional, rude, extreme, and a bit out of control. He chopped down a tree in his back yard in the attempts to build a catapult. Like he had said - crazy, irrational, and extreme. So he threw away the rest of the pills, deciding to deal with the pain rather than give up control of his body and spirit.
Fast forward to the story I recounted in my last blog post. Andrew was terribly sick when his flight commander, BK, made a decision about their flight's punishment ending. He called him up and left an angry voicemail. When Andrew sent the apology text message, he joked that he was on percocet because percocet makes him irrational, emotional, and rude. He sent the text knowing that BK would know it was a joke, laugh about the voicemail and the text, and then forgive Andrew.
Andrew then talked about how he is a Mormon and that the LDS church has a health code for all of its members to live by. Andrew follows this health code. He has seen how people's lives are negatively effected when they abuse drugs and alcohol. He would never, and will never, break this health code he has sworn to live by, for it would not only put his life in jeopardy but put his ability to provide for his family in jeopardy, too.
I spoke after Andrew, attesting to his character, his higher standard of living, how he is as a father and as a husband. I testified that I am one hundred percent certain that Andrew did not take percocet. I testified that Andrew is a good man, a good USAF officer, and that he would never do something so selfish and detrimental to his physical and spiritual health as to take a drug illegally.
My dad spoke after me giving his testimony of Andrew's character and then our close family friend, BS, gave his testimony. Maj Gen K then opened the floor to anyone else who would like to add their testimony of Andrew.
Two people stood. The first was Brother W from church. He shared a story about a mother who, back during the Civil War, had five sons. Four of them were killed in combat. The fifth son was to be killed by firing squad for falling asleep at his post. The mother wrote President Lincoln, begging him to show mercy and pardon her only living son. Brother W then asked Maj Gen K to show mercy on Andrew. Yes, he sent a text that he should not have sent; but show mercy on him now and give him the opportunity to learn from this experience, become a better person and a better USAF officer.
Maj Gen K was impressed with what Brother W had said and opened the floor for anyone who thought they might top his testimony. A few seconds went by but then one of the reservists who works with Andrew stood up. He said he would not be able to top Brother W's testimony but he wanted to speak for everyone who had shown up to support Andrew. He said that they had not driven three hours for the view (the drive between Del Rio and San Antonio is nothing but barren, brown land). They came because they know Andrew's character. They know that he is a good man and would never do what his accusers have accused him of doing - taking prescription drugs illegally.
Maj Gen K then started to ask Andrew questions about his story. He still could not understand why Andrew would send these texts if there were no drugs. He closed the hearing stating that he would read over his notes and call Andrew in later that afternoon to make his final decision.
I was crushed. Maj Gen K had shown no positive emotion through the entire hearing. He was very skeptical of Andrew's answers and disapproving of what he had done.
We thanked everyone for coming and decided to wait in the conference room till Andrew was called to meet with Mag Gen K for his decision. The girls, my dad, BS, Andrew, and myself waited for 35 minutes. The call was made and Andrew went upstairs at 1:30. As the time passed, some of those who had been at the hearing returned from lunch to await the final decision.
An entire hour passed. I was nervous. I was preparing myself for the worst. In my mind, Andrew had been given the Article 15 and was so emotional that he had to go to a room to compose himself before coming down to give us all the news.
More and more people kept coming back from lunch but still no Andrew. There were a good 25-30 people in the room. Every time someone walked around the corner my heart would restart.
Finally, after an hour and a half, Andrew rounded the corner. I saw his face and immediately knew the General's decision. Andrew had not received the Article 15! We quickly walked to each other and hugged each other as tight as we could. Best feeling ever. I could not believe it was all finally over! Andrew's name was cleared.
Everyone cheered, gave hugs, hand shakes, back slaps. It was great! We all wanted to hear what had been going on the past hour and a half so we sat down to hear the story.
First off, Andrew said that the time up in Maj Gen K's office was far from a picnic. They weren't playing patty cake. The hour and a half was broken up into three segments. The first portion of their meeting, Maj Gen K grilled Andrew with all the same questions about the nature of his texts and how could they really be jokes. After twenty minutes Maj Gen K asked Andrew, and Capt C to leave his office. A few minutes later he asked them to come back in. He continued the questions for another thirty minutes then again asked Andrew and Capt C to leave his office. Fifteen minutes later he asked them to come back in. He looked at Capt C and told him, "I am terminating the Article 15." He then looked over at Andrew and said, "You are innocent on all charges." He then asked Capt C, his Chief and his adviser to leave the room.
Maj Gen K told Andrew that he expects more from him. During all the questioning, Andrew had told Maj Gen K that as embarrassing as it sounds, that he made the joke referencing drugs to fit in with his friends and peers. That is what a lot of the guys at work are doing to be funny and Andrew wanted to fit in. Maj Gen K told Andrew to not try and assimilate to the crowd, but to rise above them. To be an example. To hold a higher standard at all times, even with those that Andrew is closest with. He told Andrew that his family should be proud of him. He faced adversity head on and stood tall with his back straight, even when he was close to the cliff and could have fallen. He did not falter. He did not give in. And he should be proud. He told Andrew that he expects to hear good things about him.
I am so grateful for the outcome of the hearing. It is an answer to thousands of prayers said on our behalf. It sure took a long enough time, but maybe it had to go that far to right so many of the wrongs that were made at the start. Andrew still has a good fight ahead of him to get him back to flying, to get his referral OPR off his record, and his promotion back on track. It might be a while to get through the bureaucracy here at Laughlin, but it should be a bit easier now that Andrew has a paper with a two star general's signature stating that Andrew did NOT do prescription drugs illegally.








